Written by: Sarah Mihm
As a mom we all have that guilt of doing things for ourselves. I can't have a girl’s night at the movies, I can't read a book, I can't hide in a bathroom and eat cupcakes away from the kids, I can't go work out. How can I do these things when I have dirty dishes, piles of laundry and dirty bathrooms to clean? We feel bad for wanting to do things for ourselves because of our list of chores that need to be done. I also think my children will need me more than anyone else. I am a helicopter mom at its finest.
The truth is, as long as you are doing something positive and healthy... it is okay to take time out for yourself. It is better for your relationship with your child. Whether it is going to Walmart by yourself, going to the coffee shop and reading a book or going to dinner with your friends... it is much needed so you can be a better parent. You can wake up the next day feeling refreshed and ready to rock.
I had major guilt of leaving my children during each of their first years of life. My friends would try and try to get me to go do things with them but I didn't want to leave either of my kids. They would cry every time I left and it was extremely hard. But I started noticing a change after a while. I wasn't the happy bubbly me that I used to be. I may also be hard on myself but I noticed resentment because I wasn't taking time out to breathe...even though I was the only one standing in the way of staying home or going and sitting at the park to listen to the trees.
All of us have "stuff". All of us have a list that we need to get too.... Laundry, dishes, dust etc.... but if we don't take time out for ourselves and "date" ourselves by doing something we love...then our home will continue to pile up with dust, dishes and laundry and our children will get less time with us because we will be stressed.
Now I say this because it is very important. Make sure your time for you is positive and healthy! If it is positive and healthy you will be a much better parent. Because of doing things for myself like sitting alone in my backyard for an hour, I now put down my phone more, I now clean better and organize, I also see my kids happier. Let your mind take a breather for a little bit. So once or twice a week for a few hours, take it upon yourself to go outside and breathe while someone watches your children. Take a walk, take a nap, go to the store or simply just sit outside and enjoy the quiet. You deserve it mom!
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