Kids and Work
Written by: Katie Sprunger
Kids and work. Work and kids. It’s a lot to handle. I find myself constantly asking myself, “How can I do everything as a mom, and do it well?” Unfortunately, I’ve come to the conclusion that it is impossible to do everything well. Just choose to give in to it. Let me explain.
Seven years ago I was working full time and loved my job. My husband and I wanted to start a family. I thought it would be a simple transition. Being a working mom was exactly what I wanted for my life- the perfect job along with being a mom seemed divine.
A year later my daughter was born and my life was forever changed. I quickly realized leaving her at a babysitter was more difficult than I imagined. I felt torn. I wanted to continue doing my job that I loved, yet, I hated spending so much time away from my newborn. For the next two years I struggled to find the balance of motherhood and working outside the home.
When I found out I was pregnant with my second child, I began to wonder how I could handle my workload along with raising two babies. As my due date began to draw near, I started to face anxiety. I simply couldn’t keep doing it all. I felt like I wasn’t doing anything well in my life. It was all too much. I decided I wanted to be home with my children. However, this meant letting go of my perfect job and financial stability. It wasn’t an easy decision.
Four years ago I resigned from my job. Since then, I’ve learned to love and appreciate staying home with my children. However, it hasn’t been an easy road. I have chosen to fully invest myself in raising my children. This choice has led to some very long and hard days. I’ve battled wondering who I am in the midst of being a mom.
You know, it kind of stinks. We always assume the grass is greener on the other side, right? It seems crazy. I’ve heard stay at home moms’ say they wish they could escape their home and reenter the work force. I’ve heard working moms’ say they wish they could just have a day or two to stay home. I’ve lived both. Both lives are great and both lives are hard. When I worked outside the home, I couldn’t do everything well. As a stay at home mom, I still can’t do everything well. When I worked, I failed. When I chose to stay home, I still failed.
Yet, I’ve come to understand something. In the failure I find contentment. It’s almost like I came to a point of accepting that I am NOT supposed to be able to do it all. I am supposed to do my best at what is before me at the given time. The more I become discontent because I’m never enough, the more I am robbed of the joy of the moments before me. Daily I battle releasing my expectations and comparison because all it does is make me discontent.
So wherever you find yourself today, can I just encourage you? You are doing a wonderful job! You can’t do it all! You’re not supposed to do it all. Grant yourself grace and keep pressing on. All moms are an encouragement to me, whether staying home or working! Keep it up momma!
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